Episode #88 Find Common Ground
There is polarization everywhere we look, and it’s hard to see a way out and a way forward. This week, Dr. Michael Brown and Amy Seiffert wrestle with the practice that could heal our relationships and save our world.
Maybe that’s part of finding common ground, saying out loud: ‘What you just said freaks me out. How you voted in this election blows me away. The thing you posted on social media creates tremendous confusion. But I’m not going to withdraw from you. I want to move toward you.’Dr. Michael Brown
- Polarization exists not only in our world but also in our homes.
- It is much easier to find uncommon ground than it is to find common ground.
- We often villainize people based on a single disagreement, not realizing that they are actually on our team.
- Without finding common ground, no relationship can meaningfully progress.
- We tend to become meaner, angrier, and more arrogant when we live in an echo chamber of only individuals who share our perspectives.
- Truly understanding another’s perspective requires us to explore the full story rather than only a snippet.
- Humility allows us to cultivate curiosity and enables us to continue asking questions.
- We can explore our natural reactions to uncommon ground while still moving forward in relationship.
- When discovering different opinions about the way problems should be solved, begin by identifying common values.
- When differing understandings of reality don’t seem to align, ask the question, “What are some facts that we can agree upon?”
- Enter each conversation presuming that you are wrong about something.
- When you struggle to understand another’s perspective, utilize the phrase, “Help me understand.”
- Schedule a conversation today to repair a relationship that has been strained by a political issue or a difference of perspective.
In This Episode
Is Unity Possible?
The notion of unity can be both powerful and unsettling: powerful because it tugs at the heartstrings of what we most desire, yet unsettling because we fear for what we might lose in the process. This week, Dr. Michael Brown and Steve Rieske bring their 3-part conversation about our Country in Crisis to a very practical and hopeful conclusion.
Compassion Changes Everything
How do we respond to the fear and frustration at the intersection of the personal and political? Prompted by the Supreme Court’s draft decision to overturn Roe v. Wade, Dr. Michael Brown and Amy Seiffert share how a commitment to compassion in the face of complexity can deepen our connection to others.
Listen To Understand
In order to be fully loved, we must be fully known. But in order to be fully known, we must first be understood. This week, Dr. Michael Brown and Dan Costello discuss the key to knowing and loving others well.