Episode #126 The Selfish Advantage
Is it possible that our self-centered tendencies may actually serve a greater purpose? This week, Dr. Michael Brown and author of A Book About Friendship, Sammy Adebiyi, introduce a powerful paradox that could transform our relationships.
I had this lightbulb moment where I realized I don’t do the things for my friends that I want my friends to do for me.Sammy Adebiyi
- On the rare occasions that we think about others, we typically only think about them in relation to ourselves.
- We are remarkably in tune with our own desires and equally out of tune with others’ desires.
- If we pursue relationships with the goal of getting something out of them, we will often be disappointed.
- We have so many more great ideas about how to be good friends than we realize.
- If we redirect even a fraction of our selfish creativity to benefit others, we will become exceptionally thoughtful friends.
- Expressing words of appreciation and affection to others actually brings as much joy to ourselves as it brings to those we encourage.
- When it comes to friendships, joy is often found on the other side of awkwardness.
- It is better to give than receive, and our lives become fuller when they are emptied for others.
- Enter each environment with the goal of being more interested in others than interesting to others.
- Refuse to think a single positive thought about someone without sharing it verbally within 24 hours.
- Make a list of every way your friends have left you with unmet expectations, then take action to meet those same expectations for others.
In This Episode
Look Beyond Yourself
One of the most critical skills that leaders can master is the ability to see the bigger picture. Dr. Michael Brown has a conversation this week with Casey Greenawalt about a counterintuitive key to personal growth.
Cheer For Others
At one time or another, all of us struggle to believe that we have what it takes. This week, Dr. Michael Brown and Dr. Tyler Schwanz reflect on moments when they have felt most encouraged and consider the individuals who have made the greatest impact on their journeys.
Cultivate Close Friendships
When it’s all said and done, the most memorable and meaningful investment we can make is a constant choice to truly connect with the people around us. This week, Dr. Michael Brown and Casey Greenawalt revisit one of our all-time favorite concepts: life is all about relationships.