Episode #14 Look Beyond Yourself

Three Problems

• Our default posture in life is to look no further than our own desires.
• We will never become the best versions of ourselves if we only ever look at ourselves.
• Until we take the time to consider others’ perspectives, our perspectives will remain incomplete.

Three Principles

• We may be the main characters in our own story, but we are not the main characters in everybody’s story.
• Paradoxically, the more of ourselves that we offer to others, the more of ourselves we will have left to give.
• Great questions deepen relationships, increase understanding, and elicit questions in return.

Three Practices

• Enter each environment committed to being more interested in others than interesting to others.
• Regularly utilize the phrases “Help me understand…” and “Tell me more about…” prior to sharing your own perspectives.
• Approach conflict with the question, “How is this affecting us?” rather than with the question, “How is this affecting me?”