
Episode #219 Be Fully Known (EC #4)
Most of us feel mostly unknown, even with the very people who should be closest. This week, Dr. Michael Brown and Dr. Beau Johnson announce the release of the fourth book in their Essential Conversations series. Be Fully Known is available now only on Amazon.
Show Notes
The closer somebody gets to me, the more likely they are to see the scars, the pimples, the zits, the impact of my wounds on other people.Dr. Beau Johnson
Five Problems
- When life is difficult, our tendency is to go it alone.
- To be fully known is to risk rejection.
- Unconditional love without complete knowledge is actually a pretty shallow love.
- If we are not willing to become a best friend, we will often struggle to find a best friend.
- It is both easier and less helpful to share a secret with a stranger than with a loved one.
Eight Principles
- There is a big difference between being known and being fully known.
- When we are fully known by a few, we are able to relate more freely to everyone else.
- As we seek to know others more deeply, this desire is often reciprocated.
- Boundaries do not preclude transparency, and they are actually its prerequisite.
- We can care about others’ problems without carrying others’ problems.
- Naming what we are not responsible for helps us to prioritize what matters most.
- We all have the power to do something difficult, even when we are scared.
- The first step to becoming fully known is to become a little bit more known.
Eight Practices
- Live a life that is more interested in others than interesting to others.
- Practice expressing your emotions – both the good and the bad.
- Identify those parts of yourself that are still hiding behind a mask.
- Reveal your true self slowly rather than suddenly.
- Walk away from relationships that are defined by being fake.
- Remove your own mask in order to inspire others to do the same.
- If there is a hope or dream you’ve never expressed, share it with someone this week.
One Perspective
- “Maturity is the willingness to take responsibility for your emotional destiny.” – Edwin Friedman
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