Episode #220 Challenge Every Lie

Eight Problems

• We often cheer ourselves on toward our greatest mistakes.
• We tend to be deeply offended by others’ lies but incredibly forgiving of our own.
• The most dangerous lies in life are the private lies we tell ourselves.
• Every lie breeds more lies.
• One of the most common lies we tell ourselves is that we are better off continuing to lie.
• We have so convinced ourselves of lies that we struggle to perceive them as such.
• We can see the solutions to others’ problems far more easily than our own.
• The loudest lies are those that are repeated over and over.

Eight Principles

• The truth will always be revealed.
• Lies grow in the darkness, but secrets shrink in the light.
• If we believe that we are a failure or that we are unlovable, we are believing a lie.
• We have authority over our minds, and lies can only control us with our permission.
• We can believe in ourselves without believing everything we think about ourselves.
• Each time we challenge a lie, it becomes easier to challenge again when it reemerges.
• Challenging our lies is not a one-time event, but it must be repeated every day.
• Ignoring lies is not nearly so effective as replacing lies with truth.

Five Practices

• Consider, “Would I give my best friend the same advice I’m giving myself?”
• Surround yourself with the type of friends who will confidently challenge your lies.
• When a lie has become so loud that it overpowers reality, raise the volume on truth.
• Identify, investigate, and incriminate the lies you believe.
• Get to the root of each lie by asking, “Why do I believe this?”