Episode #231 Best Of: Focus On Becoming

Seven Problems

• We will not be remembered for what we accomplish, achieve, or accumulate.
• We often answer the question, “Who do you want to be?” incorrectly.
• We tend to focus on branding and behaving when we should be focused on becoming.
• If we don’t decide who to become, we could become someone else on accident.
• Who we are in our 20s is pretty much who we will be for the rest of our lives.
• We will not wake up one day having become someone we have not been becoming.
• Our legacy is 100% about our choices and 0% about our intentions.

Five Principles

• There is a reason we are called human beings instead of human doings.
• The only thing we can control is our very next choice, and as a result, who we become.
• It matters less what is actually said at our funerals than what is true about us.
• It is easier to delay immediate gratification when we have a clear vision for the future.
• It is never too late to decide who we want to become, but it is best to start early.

Three Practices

• Write a funeral journal with statements you hope others will say at your funeral.
• Share parts of your funeral journal with trusted friends who will hold you accountable.
• Revisit your funeral journal regularly in order to motivate daily decisions.