Episode #80 Let It Go

As much as we hate to admit it, sometimes the only thing holding us back is ourselves. This week, Dr. Michael Brown and Russell Catania encourage us to leave in the past those things that we’ve been holding onto for far too long.

Show Notes

Not that the future is not a beautiful place and not that we can’t learn from the past. But if we are not invested in the road we’re driving on – wondering if we should have taken a right when we took a left – we are setting ourselves up for nothing short of failure.
Dr. Russell Catania

Three Problems

  • If half of our vision is in the rearview mirror, only half of our vision remains to focus on the present and future.
  • “What if?” does little to help what is, and it is often even unhelpful.
  • Failure to let it go enhances distraction, discouragement, and disappointment in our lives.

Three Principles

  • Regret should be fuel for change in the future, not something that keeps us stuck in the past.
  • We cannot force someone else to apologize or to forgive, so it is time to let it go when we have already done everything that we can do.
  • Our pasts shape us but do not define us.

Three Paradigms

  • We cannot change the past, but we can always change the present and the future.
  • We cannot control whether a thought enters our minds, but we can always control how long it stays there.
  • We cannot choose whether we are hurt by others, but we can always choose whether we take steps toward healing.

Three Practices

  • Take the time to grieve, but give yourself a grieving deadline after which point it is time to let it go.
  • Ask yourself, “Is there anything in my life that I simply need to let go?”
  • Forgive someone in your heart even if they have never apologized.